tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post3413935406458057584..comments2023-12-30T03:49:25.638-08:00Comments on Bringing Henry Home: I don't think I can do it...Carla Dobshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13774997165220926432noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-35912992151813444562012-12-24T08:13:10.469-08:002012-12-24T08:13:10.469-08:00Carla,
When our baby died, my mom told me that eve...Carla,<br />When our baby died, my mom told me that every little thing I do for my husband and daughter was an act of faith. So, while it was too much for me to do what I normally do, I could get out of bed and do small things to show the Lord my faithfulness. For you, that might just mean opening your eyes in the morning.<br /><br />You know, you never have to stop grieving Henry. Your grief will change, but it will not be "over." And that is perfectly ok. I, for one, will always be open to hearing about him, about how much you miss him, about how much you are hurting, whether it's tomorrow or two years from now. <br /><br />May the infant Jesus be that 20 pound weight on your hip, and the balm for your heart. My prayers are with you.KJLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10144013591506102232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-56337458824841444352012-12-24T06:41:42.430-08:002012-12-24T06:41:42.430-08:00Make sure you open the present that was left on yo...Make sure you open the present that was left on your porch today!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-61850553625955017142012-12-23T16:26:24.927-08:002012-12-23T16:26:24.927-08:00Dear Carla and Family,
I can understand your feel...Dear Carla and Family,<br /><br />I can understand your feelings all to well. Our daughter was stillborn in May and I thought I would be okay with everything. I was even a little excited until everything fell apart when I could not find the "perfect" babies first christmas ornament. After that I have been terribly sad and would perfer not to do things as that would some how make things better. There is no right way or wrong way with grief I am learning. You are not alone and my heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with you all.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08375667065756503864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-54830355032465200662012-12-23T08:25:46.172-08:002012-12-23T08:25:46.172-08:00Sending you and your family prayers and love, Carl...Sending you and your family prayers and love, Carla. I'm so so sorry you are going through this. I think of you and Henry, and all of the other friends and family we have lost this year. <3Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15518385586610926148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-1279130056711109422012-12-23T06:11:48.636-08:002012-12-23T06:11:48.636-08:00Carla, you're observing Lent -- specifically t...Carla, you're observing Lent -- specifically the Passion -- very early this year. Christ is in you and you are in Christ, through baptism; I have to believe that somehow, you are participating in his Passion. Sweet Jesus, be with Carla now...help her through this. Carla, thinking of you and praying for you this Christmas...wish we could take away the pain....susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06212299712330595121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-36726156306047536332012-12-21T20:48:18.127-08:002012-12-21T20:48:18.127-08:00I'm so sorry for your loss. We have been think...I'm so sorry for your loss. We have been thinking about and praying for your family. May God grant you peace and rest. Margarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17226898220293378012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-40677076195440578102012-12-21T18:59:53.019-08:002012-12-21T18:59:53.019-08:00"Dear Jesus, please bring sweet Carla the str..."Dear Jesus, please bring sweet Carla the strength and comfort she needs. Blessed Mother, we pray for your grace to help Carla her with this pain. Blessed John Paul II please pray for Carla, as you know the pain of losing those you loved. Beloved Henry, please send your prayers to comfort your dear Mama who misses you so." <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-53809494382831470242012-12-21T17:51:32.509-08:002012-12-21T17:51:32.509-08:00After our daughter was stillborn, I remember tryin...After our daughter was stillborn, I remember trying not to cry in front of my children - I would cry in the shower every morning and every evening and try to just get it all out on my own. Then my 5 year old caught me crying when I thought he was busy - he wrapped his arms around me and cried with me saying he missed his sister too and I shouldn't cry alone. His words made perfect sense; I would never leave him to cry alone in grief so why did I think I had to? Crying together allowed conversations to happen that needed to happen.<br /><br />Please do whatever you need to do this Christmas season and any holiday season after. Grief is not something you can schedule or plan for, it occurs when it occurs. <br /><br />You and your family are in my family's prayers. I hope you find peace.Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-15624596497724929572012-12-21T15:25:14.541-08:002012-12-21T15:25:14.541-08:00Carla, I am a member of Saint Anthony's and I ...Carla, I am a member of Saint Anthony's and I too, have lost a child, our son was 16 days old when he passed, he died in 2010. I miss him everyday, and have not even started to grieve for him, I cann't bring myself to think of him as gone, even though he is. I know he is in heaven, but I still need him here. I too am afraid to cry in front of the kids, they have enough grief of there own. Christmas is the worst, it is very hard to be happy when part of you is missing, I know the hole you are feeling, and there are no words that can take that hole away or fill it. Please feel free to email or call me if you need someone to talk to, another mom who is feeling your pain and knows exactly what you are going through. I know it has changed my life forever, and I am trying to adjust to the new "normal". Just as you will be too. Our email is my-77ta@sbcglobal.net, and my cell phone is 815-260-7135. We live in Frankfort, too. Take Care of yourself, God Bless- Monica Ruelle & familyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-76022600325486460052012-12-21T14:37:00.111-08:002012-12-21T14:37:00.111-08:00Love you Carla. Praying for you. ((hugs))Love you Carla. Praying for you. ((hugs))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-68307428979487089382012-12-21T13:28:44.384-08:002012-12-21T13:28:44.384-08:00In my prayers....so, so sorry.In my prayers....so, so sorry.Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05423794317423373245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-63681891708943921542012-12-21T12:45:00.687-08:002012-12-21T12:45:00.687-08:00Love and many, many prayers for you, dear Carla, a...Love and many, many prayers for you, dear Carla, and for your family. I cry with you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04872359805813073857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-31258984062238490472012-12-21T12:18:55.846-08:002012-12-21T12:18:55.846-08:00You remain in my thoughts and prayers on a daily b...You remain in my thoughts and prayers on a daily basis. I'm just so sorry.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10193011466232806815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-29148226180173588062012-12-21T10:44:32.220-08:002012-12-21T10:44:32.220-08:00You don't have to do anything except the most ...You don't have to do anything except the most basic care. Remember Jesus came to suffer with us and for us and that we may have eternal life. It's all tied to eternal life, which is what Henry is experiencing.<br /><br />Crying can be very healthy.<br /><br />I've cried through a Christmas Mass after a death of a loved one. I've cried through an Easter Mass after someone else died. <br /><br />May God send you safe people you can cry with. Even Jesus cried when his friend died. If you need to find a grief counselor for support then do it. If you need massage therapy for your aching body, then do it. If you need to cry in the shower then take a shower or two or three or four in one day and cry your heart out. <br /><br />I like to think of the peaceful night when the shepherds were keeping watch over their sheep on the First Noel. There wasn't all that jingle bell ring-a-ding-dingy holly jolly figgy pudding gaily wrapped present stuff. People were happy to see angels and star. A little boy was happy to beat his drum because that's all he had. The wise men probably got blisters of their feet as they traveled to see Baby Jesus. And they didn't get a brightly decorated tree and a four-course meal and sugar cookies when they arrived. And while these things of 21st C. American Christmas are wonderful, they can distract from the quiet peace of that Silent Night and sets us up for unmet expectations.<br /><br />Take care of yourself.<br /><br />May God send people to minister to you and your family.<br /><br /><br />Lena<br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-12834006288097975302012-12-21T10:42:15.273-08:002012-12-21T10:42:15.273-08:00Love and prayers Carla!Love and prayers Carla!Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04227735201698419296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-88581940439199580702012-12-21T10:09:56.716-08:002012-12-21T10:09:56.716-08:00You've been on my mind and we're praying f...You've been on my mind and we're praying for all of you. May God comfort you during this difficult time Carla. Sherihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18061727625555735292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-31099639098570568622012-12-21T09:57:38.920-08:002012-12-21T09:57:38.920-08:00(((( HUGS)))) my friend! Just know that you are t...(((( HUGS)))) my friend! Just know that you are thought of and prayed over by our family each day. We will never forget Henry! He touched Jeff and the kids deeply in Kiev and we will never forget him. Love you all!momto10kidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14783545060080649300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-63177813027640994562012-12-21T09:46:57.901-08:002012-12-21T09:46:57.901-08:00Also, remember that there is also a sad, somber si...Also, remember that there is also a sad, somber side to Christmas that our culture no longer recognizes....Our Blessed Mother will be by your side all the way through this. Lean on her.Robin E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03970907580484799535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-18653425278456077312012-12-21T09:39:25.863-08:002012-12-21T09:39:25.863-08:00Carla, I am so sorry... I think so many of us out...Carla, I am so sorry... I think so many of us out here wonder how you do manage to go on through this pain that is almost unimaginable. And we are praying for you through this hard, hard season. You are a good Mama, a phenomenal, devoted Mama. But right now you just need to throw yourself onto Christ's mercy and the Blessed Mother's maternal love. It'll take as long as it takes. We are still praying for you, hon. And I still light Henry's candle....it'll be lit here through the Christmas season. (((hugs and tears))))Robin E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03970907580484799535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-5210992802316813742012-12-21T09:20:06.868-08:002012-12-21T09:20:06.868-08:00thinking of you. I cant imagine the pain you deal ...thinking of you. I cant imagine the pain you deal with daily. Im sorry you have to go down this lonely road. all my love.MoonDoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11707506968348810606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-12461573165756752672012-12-21T08:50:44.594-08:002012-12-21T08:50:44.594-08:00I still weep almost daily when i think of your pai...I still weep almost daily when i think of your pain Carla. when i think of Henry, I don't feel sad for him anymore but when i think of what you are going through, what you have left to go through, I feel pain. I can't imagine how it must be to wake up to another day without Henry. I am praying for you and all the families who have their children in this past month, especially on Christmas. May you have a special Christmas in your heart, even if it's not the same as before. :-(Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10451590537173713861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-17218674691194356592012-12-21T08:28:18.600-08:002012-12-21T08:28:18.600-08:00Your family will understand that you still rejoice...Your family will understand that you still rejoice in Christmas even if you cannot do it with all the bells and whistles of former years. You are mourning a terrible loss. I'm sure everyone will understand if you can't be very festive. Do what feels right, but dont' try to hide how you feel.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05117120475033380036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-70695496346021657182012-12-21T08:25:45.752-08:002012-12-21T08:25:45.752-08:00Praying for you. Please don't feel like you ha...Praying for you. Please don't feel like you have to do anything anybody else's way, or explain yourself to them.Wandering Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15611498546168017553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-50382939999228554172012-12-21T08:14:12.550-08:002012-12-21T08:14:12.550-08:00Oh, sweetie. I ache for you. I am so sorry. Please...Oh, sweetie. I ache for you. I am so sorry. Please, you take the time you need, and do it your way. Everyone understands and if they don't, then they will just have to learn. You have suffered a great tragedy that has turned your world upside down. Please know that your friends are praying for you, we have not forgotten, and Henry is praying for you, too… So much love coming your way, dear Carla.Leila@LittleCatholicBubblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357573787143230160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089120699222354664.post-81211893540426028182012-12-21T08:04:27.944-08:002012-12-21T08:04:27.944-08:00Praying for you.Praying for you.Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11501575551066939483noreply@blogger.com