One of the most surprising things to my family and I as we mourn Henry is how stark the division has become for so many things in our life.
Yesterday as I was driving my son back to college I thought, "The last time I drove Luke back to U of I Henry was waiting for me to come home."
As my husband watched football Sunday afternoon he thought, "This is the first Bears game without Henry with us."
This morning as the alarm on my phone sounded to remind me to take Henry to therapy I thought, "I will have to cancel all 4 of the alarm reminders on my phone since we will not be going to therapy or having therapists come here any more."
A stark dividing line.
Before and After.
Before - Henry with us.
After - Henry not with us.
So it is easy to fall into the mindset that "before" is good and "after" is bad.
But what about this....?
Before - Henry abandoned in an orphanage crib.
After - Henry our beloved son and baby brother.
Before - Henry with Larsen's Syndrome here on earth.
After - Henry perfect in heaven.
God takes ALL THINGS and makes them new.
He can take our worst pains and tragedies and turn them to joy through people who listen to His promptings and act as His hands to those in need...
Like all of you did for me and my family.
Through the almost 200 comments on my blog post that Henry had gone to his heavenly home...
Through a wall of light and love on my FB page that my husband and I wept over at midnight after Henry's wake...
Though teary eyes mamas and dads who brought their babies and children to say good-bye...
Through flowers and food and donations sent from close friends and even strangers... From my next door neighbor to a priest from Great Britain who I have no idea how he found Henry's blog...
Before - we were gratefully accepting help to pay for Henry's funeral and his final medical costs...
After - through your generous hearts, we have enough to pay for these...
And some left over to bless others.
We will be donating to the Village of Hope in Guatemala, where a brave family has moved their many children to care for orphans (international adoptions are not allowed from there) and the hungry, especially those with special needs. You can read more and make a tax deductible donation here:
Our family will be donating 7 bricks ($25 each) - one for each of our precious children, including Henry.
Please ask if you can help to build this House for Life - for those precious children who have no chance at an "after" with a loving family like Henry had for 14 months.
Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.